Is Casual Sex Just for the Movies?

While there will always be an ongoing debate surrounding the morality of casual sex, the fact is that more people want it then may actually admit it. Just check out an adult online dating site and you will understand what I mean. But what is more enticing? The opportunity to tally up how many members of the opposite sex you are able to sleep with? Or, could it be that you desire to have the benefits of an intimate relationship with a friend, even if it’s just a casual relationship, without the emotional stuff that often comes with a serious relationship. Let’s be honest. In a relationship we are rarely afraid of the physical part of casual sex; it’s the emotional side that can scare the hell out of us!

With recent movies hitting the big screen in the U.S. like No Strings Attached and Hall Pass, more people are wondering if casual sex is just for the movies. Can a casual relationship really work once you take it off the big screen and put it in the setting of the average living room, or kitchen, or bedroom, or elevator, of the average couple.

Some experts say that casual sex without commitment is impossible. Others say that a casual relationship with a no strings attached relationship is very possible, and can actually be healthy. Where you land on this issue may have much to do with your maturity, your age, or your lifestyle.

If you are interested in hooking up for a casual encounter the best advice out there is to communicate clearly with your potential partner. It’s when two people have different end games, or expectations, in mind that things can get sticky. Remember that emotional baggage that we mentioned before…the stuff that scares us? Well, that’s what will result if you’re not clear up front about what the sexual encounter is all about.

You must be ready and willing to tell yourself and your mate that “I am not ready for a relationship; I am not interested in having a serious relationship with you – now or in the future; and all I want is some good, clean, no strings attached casual sex.”

If you cannot honestly say that then perhaps you need to think a bit more about an illicit encounter.

People that enjoy casual sex and are able to have healthy casual relationships are mature and honest. You have to know yourself, which in and of itself is a very desirable trait. If you have a sexual style that is different from modern norms then be sure that you explore it with someone who wants the same thing. Trust me, these folks are out there just waiting to hook up, and you can often find them through adult online dating sites.

If you are interested in making a casual sex movie more of a reality for you then be sure to do it the right way. And by “do it” I mean approach the casual relationship with the right attitude. Casual sex is about having fun; however, it’s also about being mature, responsible, and safe. Don’t get emotionally wrapped up – casual sex is more about getting wrapped up in another way such as between the bed sheets!

Sex Ideas For Couples – Watch an Adult Movie Together

There are many sex ideas for couples that will increase the amount and quality of sex in your life and everyone should be striving for a healthy sex life. Sex with the one you love is one of the most fulfilling experiences and is something that everyone should be enjoying to the fullest.

Learning to enjoy and experience sex to it’s full potential is an ongoing learning process and the key to expanding your sexual horizons is to continually experiment and try new things. Many people find this difficult to do and still have the notion that sex and anything to do with sex is still sort of taboo.

Nothing could be further from the truth and that is why it is imperative to have many different sex ideas for couples. New ideas keep things fresh, exciting and allow couples the ability to grow their own passions about new sexual activities. Whether that be sex toys, new positions, sex games or something as simple as watching an adult movie together.

Settling down with your partner and watching an adult movie is one of the easiest sex ideas for couples to try in the comfort of their own home. Adult films are a great way to get each other sexually aroused and are a perfect way to explore your sexual fantasies and deepest sexual desires.

If you have never watch an adult film with your partner then you should definitely consider buying/renting a feature adult movie. A feature adult movie is essentially a movie with a plot and sex. Do not set your expectations too high and think you are going to be watching the next Academy Award winner. The plot quality in these adult movies varies greatly. With that being said there are some fantastic adult movies that are better than those on the big screen but there are others that will leave you scratching your head.

Whatever the case may be, watching a feature adult movie with your significant other is one of the great sex ideas for couples that will open the door to a whole new world of sexual possibilities.

Try something new and take the steps to expanding your sexual horizons. Snuggle on the couch or floor together under a blanket , turn on the DVD player and let the good times begin. Check out these sex ideas for couples and other great ways to explore the world of sex by visiting Sex4Couples.info today!

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

To discover new and effective ways to have a wonderful, romantic love life and to become a great lover, my book “Love and Sex” offers frank and wide-reaching information. You will find a truly in-depth look at what actually happens during sex and how to overcome sexual difficulties. By reading this book you can change your love life.

Nudity And Sex In American Movies

Nudity ands sex in movies can be controversial because some people are uptight about seeing it shown. The United States has a different view on nudity compared to Europe. On some European channels television commercials themselves have nudity, try pulling that off on American television. In many cultures, the nudity and sex factor in movies is governed by a tiered system of censorship. These systems are aimed at limiting children’s access to content that is deemed harmful by the public, the government, the movie industry itself including the Motion Picture Association of America (MPAA). This is a good thing because it properly limits racy content to adults.

Nudity and sex in American films are looked at by movie critics and viewers with a strong eye. Was the nudity or sex shown artistically to impact the story or was it completely gratuitous nudity and sex that added nothing to the movie? That is often the divide. A few movies that have been tagged as the later are “Showgirls” directed by Paul Verhoeven. The movie received an NC-17 rating because of the nudity and simulated sex scenes. It was a very controversial movie when it came out. Rape, lesbianism, and interracial relationships were some of the subjects covered in the movie. In a nutshell it’s about an attractive female drifter that climbs up from a stripper to a showgirl in Las Vegas. Whatever the movie was or was not I watched it an knew what to expect. It would have been strange to see a movie about a Las Vegas stripper that did not have nudity and sex. It would have had no realism in my opinion.

“Swordfish” directed by Dominic Sena and starring Hollywood stars John Travolta and Halle Berry is another movie that is tagged for gratuitous nudity. In brief the movie is about a bad guy who hires a computer hacker to help him electronically steal billions of dollars. The one scene that some people complained about was Halle Berry going topless for apparently no reason. Or as critics put it the scene was so out of context and did nothing to move the story or develop her character. The urban legend is she was paid an extra 2 million dollars for the topless scene. Regardless, I bet that scene helped sell a lot of movie tickets and DVD’s. While some say making movies is done for the art, the bottom line is always the money. Good call by the producers to add that scene.

“Hitman” directed by Xavier Gens has been viewed as offensive by some viewers because of the nudity and sex in the movie. The plot summary from IMDB.COM is this, A gun-for-hire known only as Agent 47 is ensnared in a political conspiracy, which finds him pursued by both Interpol and the Russian military as he treks across Eastern Europe. hired by a group known as “The Agency” to kill targets for cash. The main character Agent 47 finds himself in the company of Nika who is nude in a hotel room and shown straddling Agent 47 nude. I’m guessing this movie inspired by a video game was made as a total guy movie. I felt the nudity fit the plot because it was the art of seduction being played out by a woman who lived a dangerous life. She survived using her looks and cunning.

“Consignment” directed by Sid Kali is a killer urban action movie. It is gritty and realistic keeping to the beat of the rougher side of life dealing drugs. Based on true events, “Consignment” is about Tommy Jones, a reluctant East Coast drug dealer on the run with his wife, Yolanda, after a rival kingpin’s plan to have him ripped-off and murdered goes wrong. Double-crosses, a series of brutal murders, and an old secret from his wife’s past foils Tommy’s plans for a new start at life. This direct to video movie has taken some heat for a few scenes in it. First there is a very hot striptease scene where a curvy Latina seduces two drug dealers going topless down to a g-string. I have been in Las Vegas strip clubs and bachelor parties where that is the norm. Nothing offensive to me. I thought it fit the story because the stripper was a plant for a rival drug dealer learning what she could about his enemies. I thought Director Sid Kali showed the nudity in a tasteful and seductive light. The other is a rape scene where a female drug dealer is pulled from a shower and forced to give up the whereabouts of her former crime partner and lover. I myself do not know anyone that showers in their clothes except those two guys in the movie “Weird Science”. I thought the scene was powerful and added impact to the story because of the way it was shown. The focus was never the nudity but the pain on the face of the female drug dealer. Bravo to that actress! Bravo Sid Kali!

Other art house movies or movies that show nudity and sex are sometimes loved because the nudity and sex is deemed artistic. “Monster’s Ball” directed by Marc Foster landed star Halle Berry an Oscar for Best Actress in a Leading Role. Plot summary from IMDB.COM Set in the Southern United States, ‘Monster’s Ball’ is a tale of a racist white man, Hank (played by Billy Bob Thornton), who falls in love with a black woman named Leticia (Halle Berry). Ironically Hank is a prison guard working on Death Row who executed Leticia’s husband (Sean Combs). Hank and Leticia’s interracial affair leads to confusion and new ideas for the two unlikely lovers. It had one of the most intense graphic love scenes I’ve seen in a movie. Some came out against it claiming it portrays black women as ferocious and lewd, with an appetite for sexual encounters, portrayed by the animalistic and raw quality of the sex scene and its racial context. Others say the scene shows two people’s desperate need for affection and comfort in the face of human tragedy. Whatever the case Halle Berry won an Oscar. She is an amazing actress.

“The Brown Bunny” directed by Vincent Gallo, who also stars in it with Chole Sevingy is a fiery independent film that takes a chance pushing the creative envelope. Plot summary pulled from IMDB.COM Professional motorcycle racer Bud Clay heads from New Hampshire to California to race again. Along the way he meets various needy women who provide him with the cure to his own loneliness, but only a certain woman from his past will truly satisfy him. What sets this movie apart is the highly controversial scene of actual oral sex between Gallo and co-star Chloe Sevigny in a shabby motel room. What made this scene so gripping was the sex scene was shown in such a lonely and painful way. Director Vincent Gallo captured the desperate and shallow feelings of the characters. That scene was included in the movie for shock appeal, it was there to show human pain during what most people think is a pleasurable experience. Bravo for taking the chance on making a radical movie. This director is a rock star! Bravo Vincent Gallo!

Overall I think nudity and sex are part of life. To censor it out of movies is not the answer. I say let movie makers put out their work, including nudity and sex, and let the viewers decide if they want to watch it or not. There are a ton of movies out there with no nudity or sex. Leave the option and the choice to the masses.

Science Supports the Need for Casual Sex Flirting

Casual sex movies make it all seem so easy. Two people meet up at a bar, share a quick drink, and then are seen passionately bouncing off hallway walls as they try to get each other’s clothes off. But is it really all so simple? And if it is, then why aren’t all bar room hallways bursting at the seams with horny hookups? The answer is…they’re not and the science behind attraction and a woman’s desire for casual sex gives a little insight into why.

In several studies, the original one conducted in 1989 and a follow-up one conducted more recently, both men and women were asked if they would have casual sex with a platonic friend – a friends with benefits arrangement – or if they would have casual sex with a complete stranger. In both studies it showed that men were more likely to agree to a quickie than their female counterpart. So if you are a man and want to get a more favorable response to the question, “Will you go to bed with me?” there are few basic things that you need to understand about the women who are most likely to say yes.

Whether you meet a potential partner through an adult online dating site, through a friend, or in a pub, the basics of getting that person to agree to a one night stand or no strings attached relationship include a little flirting. Yes, even with casual sex you need a little flirting.

Science has suggested two theories explaining what women look for. The first theory reaches back to our caveman roots and the evolutionary reasons for having sex – survival of the species. In this explanation the woman needs to be choosy about their hook up mate since they expect them to stick around to help change diapers and buy formula. They want a man they can depend on.

The second theory is one that we can better get our minds around when talking about casual sex and that is the Pleasure Theory. We are all hardwired to pursue pleasure. This is the type of wiring that you guys need to stand up and take notice of. Yes, woman will be more likely to say yes to a casual relationship when they perceive that they are going to get a little pleasure from it…or more likely, a lot of pleasure. Women want to orgasm and they will be more willing to give it a shot with a guy (or girl) that is likely to provide it.

So let’s put the two theories together and create a better mousetrap. Guys, if you want casual sex then you need to convince a woman that they can depend on you to give them an orgasm!

How is this done? Well, to discover that you may just want to follow me and get some advice on some good old fashioned flirting and seduction. That is something that never goes out of style no matter if it’s casual sex or true love sex that you are after.

Adult Movie Nights: The Best Late Night You Can Have

Are you gearing up for another night in front of the television with your partner? A documentary, a sitcom or a movie you have been waiting to see. It’s all very normal, very plain and very likely to kill the passion. You have probably done it a thousand times, watched your shows, stayed up too late, gotten extremely tired and then popped off to bed with barely a kiss goodnight. Well it’s time for a change, it’s time to put some spark back into your nightly, or even daily, routine. It’s time to watch something a little different.

Women can watch too.

We all know that the majority of men like to watch adult movies or to put it more bluntly, porn. There are not many women out there who haven’t ‘busted’ their man at some stage enjoying the visual delights of the adult movie. And now with so much adult content to view online it is an inescapable pastime. And why not? If all adults are consenting and no one is getting hurt, for real, then why shouldn’t people go ahead and enjoy a film based entirely on sex and naked bodies? There are plenty of women out there who enjoy an adult film too, some might not like to admit it, but it’s not only the men whose brains are hard wired to be sexually stimulated visually. If you are a woman who hasn’t tried watching an adult movie yet then maybe it’s time. And if you are a woman who does like to watch, then maybe it’s time to share the advice with friends. Many a fun time has been had after watching a bit of hanky panky on the tv and this can only make for a more interesting night in front of the telly. Adult DVDs can inspire some great party ideas for adults to play together.

Watch, interact and re-enact.

Watching an adult DVD with your partner doesn’t need to be embarrassing. If you find it is a little then try a different spin on it. Think of it as educational; think of it as a bit of a laugh. In all situations, don’t take it too seriously and don’t be offended. Have an open mind and look at what you are watching for what it is, SEX. No need for analyzing, it is what it is. A great way to get a lot out of watching an adult DVD is by discussing what you are watching. You could ask your partner in your sexiest voice if they might like to try what they see. If they do, go ahead and play it out, it could be more fun and more rewarding than what you think.

You can add more spice to your adult movie night with the help of toys, lingerie and lotions. Access your goodies from adult party plans and get ready for a night of tv that involves more than hand holding.

Home Church Teaching on TV and Movies

The home church can effectively teach the effects of TV and movie watching. The kinds of movies and TV shows that are produced today have deteriorated in terms of right and wrong. The media seems to either dictate what the norm is or is taking it from the prevalent culture to please them.

It is often a question of who is influencing who? Is the culture influencing what the movies ought to be or is the movie influencing what the culture ought to be? The biblical norms of morality and behavior now seem to contradict the movies that are shown on TV and cable shows. We are not sure if the adult rated movies are themselves good for Christians.

The movies and shows take on a worldview that is very different and most time opposite to the biblical world view. Christians ought to be concerned about exposing their families to such suggestions. The bible warns us not to conform to the world but to be transformed in our minds. Home church tries to inculcate this habit of right and pure thinking.

The will of God is clearly available for anyone who wants it. But knowing the will of god is subject to certain conditions. The will of God is only revealed to those who are transformed or in the transforming process of their minds. The warning we need to obey is that we are not to think like the world thinks, but as God thinks.

The movies do not help us in transforming our minds to how God thinks. The movies depict a certain lifestyle and morality that is in direct contradiction to what the Bible says. Premarital sex is forbidden in the bible. But the media allows it and it presents it as the norm for today. Only the home church can get teach us about wrong values of society individually.

The kingdom of God is fundamentally different from the kingdom of this world. The values are totally incompatible. The earthly kingdom lives for today and now. The kingdom of God is for eternity.

The media has a right to do what they want as long as the sensor boards let them show them. I am not against the media but I am warning that Christians should show more and more discretion as to what we are watching and what the children are watching. The home church could help in warning us that it is not healthy to transform our minds to thin kike God if we continue let the movies influence our thinking.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

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Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

To discover new and effective ways to have a wonderful, romantic love life and to become a great lover, my book “Love and Sex” offers frank and wide-reaching information. You will find a truly in-depth look at what actually happens during sex and how to overcome sexual difficulties. By reading this book you can change your love life.